It’s just a phase. This term is probably one of the most useful things I say to myself as a mother. Some days I need to repeat it to myself like a mantra, just to get me through the day. Those days when you ask yourself why you thought motherhood was such a good idea. When you question your life and reminisce about your motherless self, and days gone by when you had time to potter the day away.
Every mother has difficult days. Those days when your kid is endlessly testing your limits and you feel you have been in battle for hours. I know that I should exercise patience, love and understanding. I know I must be the bigger person. And believe me I try.
But sometimes, communication breaks down, patience is lost, and it doesn’t quite go according to the parenting manual. I remember a particularly bad day when I honestly found myself mirroring the tantrum of my 3 year old. That might be a slight exaggeration, but nonetheless it was not a pretty site!
I wish I didn’t lose it at times and could always ride the wave. But sometimes those waves make me feel like I’m drowning. I’m human. I mess up. I make mistakes. And so does my son.
It’s ok if we are having an off day sometimes. It doesn’t last forever…it’s just a phase. Take a breath, apologise and get on with your day. Tomorrow will be better.